HOW BANKRUPTCY AND DEATH BED REQUESTS NO ONE MAKES ARE SIMILAR PART 4 OF 5 ” TOO MANY FRIENDS”

  • BANKRUPTCY AND DEATH BED REQUESTS ARE RELATED, BUT HOW?

The decisions that you make about filing bankruptcy, what property to keep and how your life is going to look in the future is going to be determined, in part, by what you are decide to do and what property you decide to try and keep when you file bankruptcy.

  • ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT WHAT OTHERS MAY SAY?

Yes, of course, you are worried about what others may say if you file bankruptcy, give up your home or your car or quit the job you hate or decide to open an ice cream shop instead of going to work at a “REGULAR JOB”.

  • WHAT IF YOUR DOCTOR HAS TOLD YOU THAT YOU HAVE SIX MONTHS TO LIVE?  DO YOU STILL CARE WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY?

I am always concerned about persons who are worried about what they may lose in a bankruptcy. I hold long meetings with prospective clients over whether it is really worth it to try and keep something. Before you worry about what you are going to lose or keep, ask yourself the following question as if you have just been told by your Doctor that you have six months to live and there is nothing that you can do to live one minute, day or month longer.

  • QUESTION NUMBER 4 DID YOU HAVE TOO MANY FRIENDS?

ARE YOU GLAD THAT YOU DID NOT TAKE THE TIME TO CULTIVATE FRIENDSHIPS? WAS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO WORK ALL THOSE EXTRA HOURS SO YOU COULD KEEP SOME PROPERTY AND NOT HAVE FRIENDS? IF YOU CAN SOMEHOW SEE PEOPLE AT YOUR FUNERAL, WILL ANYONE COME? WAS THE REASON YOU AND YOUR FRIEND STOPPED BEING FRIENDS REALLY SO IMPORTANT THAT YOU COULD NOT FORGIVE AND FORGET?

I am going to be really surprised if your answer is yes. Maybe your are one of the lucky ones and you just naturally make new friends all the time. Being a friend is work and you have to be around to do the work. You have to listen to your friend’s stories, many of which you heard before. You have to be there to console your friend when times are tough for your friend. You have to be there to celebrate the good times, help your friend through the bad times and just be there.
You have to do things that add value to your life so that someone wants to be with you and be your friend. If all you do is work and sleep, what can you add to someone’s life so that they want to be your friend. If you do not do interesting things, then how can you be interesting to other people. Why would they want to be friends with you?
Have you gotten into groups that have interests that are similar to yours or are you so busy with other things that you say you do not have time to participate and develop friendships. Was keeping some property or things worth not having friendships that meant something to you?
Do you really think that what you think and who your friends are does not matter? Friends make your life better and you make your friends lives better.

ARE YOU GOING TO SAY I AM SO GLAD THAT I DID NOT HAVE FRIENDS?

ARE YOU GOING TO SAY THAT MY FRIENDS AND I NEVER TALKED ABOUT WHAT I BELIEVED IN AND WHAT THEY BELIEVED IN?

ARE YOU GOING TO SAY MY FRIENDS AND I NEVER DISCUSSED HOW TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE?

ARE YOU GOING TO SAY THAT YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS NEVER TALKED ABOUT HOW TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE?

ARE YOU GOING TO SAY THAT YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS NEVER MADE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE THROUGH LAUGHTER, THROUGH SHARING SOME CORNY JOKE, THROUGH BEING THERE FOR EACH OTHER WHEN IT COUNTED?

WAS THE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE BECAUSE YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS CARED FOR EACH OTHER AND MADE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE?

WILL YOU HAVE FRIENDS WHO WILL FONDLY REMEMBER YOU?

WILL YOUR FRIENDS REMEMBER THAT YOU WERE EVER HERE AND TELL TALES AND RECOUNT FOND MEMORIES OF YOU?

WILL IT BE WRITTEN ON YOUR TOMBSTONE, THE DECEASED WORKED ALL THE TIME, ALL OF HIS LIFE, NEVER HAD TIME FOR FRIENDS, NEVER TRIED TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE AND WE TRIED TO FIND SOMEONE WHO ACTUALLY MISSED HIM WHEN DIED AND WE ARE STILL LOOKING?

WILL YOUR FAMILY HAVE TO HIRE A PROFESSIONAL SPEAKER TO TALK ABOUT YOUR LIFE BECAUSE NO FRIEND EXISTS TO TALK ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU MEANT TO THIS WORLD?

WILL YOU BE HAPPY ABOUT HOW OTHER PEOPLE DESCRIBE YOUR LIFE?

WILL YOU BE HAPPY WITH THE NUMBER OF FRIENDS YOU HAD OR WISH YOU HAD MORE?

The rest of your life begins now.   What you decide to do is going to affect you for the rest of your life.   The minutes, days, hours, weeks, months or years spent keeping or giving up property cannot be recovered.

Will you be happy with the choices you make now as choices made now will affect you death bed requests?

No one asks that their friends come see them on their death bed if they have no friends.  Will you be asking to see your friends one last time or will you be alone?  Was it worth it?

What are you going to do with your life and your future?  I am pretty sure you only get one life and one future.

About Nathan Davis, Esquire

Born in Charleston, South Carolina, Nathan Davis has been practicing law for many years. Mr. Davis has a wide variety of experiences having practiced domestic relations, criminal law, social security law having also practiced collection law in the past. This knowledge is helpful when someone needs to restart their financial life. The practice is now primarily bankruptcy and debtor representation work, but, Mr. Davis continues to also practice real estate law, trusts and estates and a general litigation practice. I believe that the most important part of representation is trying to leave you better off when the case is finished than when you started. Although I will do as my client directs, I will always tell you if I think that you are making a mistake. Bankruptcy is about a "fresh start". If you do not make changes in what you are doing, you will be doing what you are doing now in the future. There is no shame in bankruptcy or other steps that you may take to start your life over. Too often, people worry more about things than about themselves, their family or their future.
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